Thursday, June 2, 2011

Thoughts on weddings.

I recently got married. Very recently. And I noticed that though everything came out beautiful and only a few things went wrong, (things which had to be pointed out to me by my father) everything is still pretty much a blur to me. During the wedding, and even the reception, it felt as if time was standing still. I commited to memory everything I possibly could. The feel of the sun on my skin, the colors around me, the look on my new husbands face, and most importantly, the way I was feeling at that moment. Yet now, only a mere 5 days later, I can only really recall wiping away an errant tear on my husbands face and the fact that my stelleto heel got caught in the space between the floor boards in the gazebo during our unity sand ceremony. Everything else seems like it was a movie on very fast rewind. Ya know when you hit the fast forward  button on the DVD player and it hits 32X and the movie just jumps from scene to scene? My memories kind of seem like that. I have yet to find my pause or even regular playback button. Even now as I write from the computer in the lobby of the hotel on my honey moon while my new husband rests for a little while, the wedding seems so far away. I know that my husband feels the same way simply because on Sunday he looked at me very seriously and asked, "It was just last night that we got married, right?" You may laugh but I understood the meaning behind the question clearly enough. It felt like so much life had been lived in those 24 hours that it could not possibly have fit into the time frame. Perhaps its the nature of monumentous occasions to seem to last an eternity while they are happening and then to evade our minds until we look back years later. I would personally like to thank the inventor of the digital camera for giving me the opportunity to see the things my subconscience knows but my conscience mind can not bring to the fore front.
I see my husband coming for me now with the look on his face that first melted my heart so I will leave it at that for now.
For those who are getting married, Good Luck and Congratulations!
For those who are married, Way to Go you made it through one of the most hectic days of your lives without any undue harm. Go back and look at your pictures. Refesh your memories and cherish every last one of them. They are all precious in their own way. From the most romantic right on down to the most embarrasing. Tell the story to your kids or grandkids, nephews or nieces, or even just to each other. Remember things you thought forgotten. But most importantly remember the love you had for each other and rejoice in it together. It is one of the most precious gifts you have been given in this world.